The way I feel at 30 is the polar opposite of how I felt when I was 20.
|I'm about to turn 20, going to Prom|
1) Set Reasonable Goals – Yes you can aim for the world, but break your goal down to small attainable steps to lead you towards what your bigger vision is for yourself. The point is to not set yourself up for failure, that you beat yourself up and not start over. It really is about small steps. What do you need to do next to get to where you want to be?
2) Forget About Being Liked – People should like you for who you are. If they don’t, too bad – that’s their loss. I wasted a lot of my 20s worrying about being liked. Spend that energy thinking about what you want. No one else is going to do this for you. I would also like to add that you should not waste any time trying to impress people you don’t like. Trying to be friends with the world is exhausting. See my people-pleaser problem above.
4) No One is Perfect – Ok this one is so clichéd, but it deserves to be said over and over again. Stop striving for perfection! You’ll drive yourself crazy and not fully be able to stop and enjoy being in the moment. A better goal is to aim to be happy, instead of perfect. Perfection is overrated. If you ever attain it, you’ll realize how empty it feels. Save your time and energy.
5) Don’t Be a Doormat – If you don’t want to do something, say no. People will try to take advantage of you and use you. Eliminate time-wasters and stop getting sucked into things you don’t want to do. Say no. The world won’t end and life will go on. Always go with your gut. That goes for people, places and things.
|Me at U of T|
I wish I had could take the confidence I have now at 30, cut it half and share some with myself at 20. However, without the journey of stupid mistakes and life lessons – I wouldn’t be where I am now at 30. Let’s see what I learn in the next 10 years. What would you tell your 20 year-old self? Any hard life lessons you would never repeat again?
|Celebrating my 30th birthday with my husband|