Wednesday, June 8, 2011

What Simone Would Tell Her 20 Year-Old Self

We have launched a new series called, What I Would Tell My 20 Year-Old Self that will feature guest columns by some of our favourite bloggers and people. Read some of our past lists here or share with us what you have learned.

Guest post by: Simone of Skinny Dip

1. Just because you've had some bad stuff happen to you and your heart has been crushed to a million pieces, it does not mean you are "damaged". This is a bad word because it implies that something cannot be fixed but, people heal and so will you. Whatever you're going through now may suck but, eventually it will suck a lot less. Bad experiences will shape who you are but, don't let them define you. Stuff happens and its painful and sad and doesn't make any sense but, you are not this stuff.

2. Don't make someone a priority so you can be their option. Unavailable guys may seem appealing but, you deserve more. It's always better to be alone than to be with someone who can't decide what they want.

3. People will show you who they are through their actions. It's up to you to watch and listen. If someone does something that you don't think a "good person" would do, it probably means they aren't a good person. If someone acts like a jerk, it means they are a jerk. Some people just don't have good intentions. You may feel that spending time with them might make them a better person, and maybe it will but, the harm they will cause you in the meantime isn't worth it.

4. Be the star in your own show! When people try to suck you into their own drama (because this will happen) put your blinders on. This is the time to prioritize your own GOALS. Focus on YOU. DO WELL IN SCHOOL. It's so, so important.

5. Chick Flicks lie to you. Finding "Mr. Right" will not magically make all of your problems go away and make your life perfect. All the stuff that you were hoping to fix will still be there. Bringing another person into the equation might actually amplify what's wrong to begin with. A relationship shouldn't be seen as a destination. The most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourself so, work on you first.

Read the rest of Simone's list on her blog, Skinny Dip

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