Trust me, I know the feeling because I was there this time last year. So I’m here to tell you that it’s just temporary and here’s how I kept my sanity while adjusting to my new reality (life with baby!).
1) Get outside every day. Go for a coffee, go to the park, go for a walk around the block. Doing these things saved me on days when I was going stir-crazy with a crying baby inside. L’il E was born in February so the first three months were rather chilly, but I would bundle him up and away we would go. The fresh air in our lungs was healthy and it would kill a couple of hours, plus inevitable I would run into other moms.
2) Do something that makes YOU feel good – for me that was showering, blow drying my hair and putting mascara on. At first I felt ridiculous because a) new moms are expected to look frazzled and unkempt and b) I had nowhere to be, but getting myself together made me feel like me again. Plus it was an huge ego boost when I would go for a coffee and all the other mummies would tell me how great I looked. Vanity – check!
3) DATE NIGHT! If someone offers to babysit, pump some breast milk and take the night off! One tip: go easy on the alcohol. I hadn’t drank much at all (obvi) and on our first date night I had a few too many glasses of red. Needless to say I wanted to die the next day.
4) Sign up for stuff. When Public Health calls, and they will, say yes to everything. I met a dozen amazing women through the Public Health mums group, they all live in my neighborhood and we still get together. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your experiences, find out about other community activities or just vent. Tears will be shed but many more laughs will be had.
5) Call the shots and don’t get too busy. It’s easy to get a crazy busy social calendar. Everyone wants to meet junior and you want to keep busy, but don’t overbook yourself because it will wear you out. My rule was one social interaction/activity a day. I would also keep a couple of days clear so E and I could hang together and have some downtime at home. Those can be the most special days (tear).
Welcome to parenthood - remember, you can do this!
Alanna Banks is the author of the lifestyle blog http://fridaysoff.ca. Her posts are always honest, informative and share-worthy. When she's not blogging she's being mum to her toddler son and working 9-5 as a PR pro in Toronto.